Had a Horrible 2015? Here’s How to Fix It.
So for one minute, let’s just be completely “present” to your current situation.
You may be a single mother with 1, 2, 3 or even more kids. You may be struggling to make ends meet; you may be trying to figure out do I date or do I not; or better yet, do I make time for self or continue on a self-sacrifice path. All of these questions and “real deal” concerns are just a few examples of why we sometimes live in coulda, woulda, shoulda-land. Many times these are the things that fuel our once again list of New Year’s Resolutions. This year will be different!!
However, here is a mind shift moment: everything that has happened, all of the challenges you have faced have occurred to provide you lessons. You are an exceptional women; an exceptional mother; an exceptional friend; one with purpose beyond your imagination. You were blessed with those lessons, so that your truest and best self could emerge.
You discovered your love for finances, because of your ability to be creative as the sole breadwinner of your household! You discovered how much you loved cooking, because with your limited resources, you could whip up a masterpiece! How much have you uncovered about yourself? How much strength and resilience have you realized exist within you?
All of these and more have aided in molding you and preparing you in the purpose that God has designed specifically for you. So this year, lets not look at all the things that could have been; but rather focus on how all of the things that have “been” will help navigate a different kind of year. Let’s not make resolutions due to fear and regret, but rather make intentions. Being intentional in your journey and remove attachment to the outcome. So if your desire to lose the 15 pounds you gained last year does not happen in the time allocated, DO NOT beat yourself up! Do not have a coulda, woulda, shoulda moment!!
I celebrate with you where you stand today but remove the coulda, woulda, and shoulda of yesteryear.